Arrrgh, I don’t know. This wine menu is seriously stressing me out…
Would you like to find the easiest way out of the anxiety, overwhelm and stuckness, to finally be the confident, carefree woman that’s hiding inside?
Would you agree that in today’s general conversation… anxiety, panic attacks, depression – they’re words that seem to be just thrown around so willy-nilly that it feels many people have become numb to what they actually are… almost like they’re not even a ‘thing’. And maybe, like many women out there, you might have heard a friend say stuff like:
Arrrgh, I don’t know. This wine menu is seriously stressing me out…
Perhaps anxiety to you is being unable to leave your house for fear of being judged on your looks, intelligence, your ability to do your job, or your humour.
Or, is it possible a panic attack for you is not brought on by the site of a messy bedroom, but the constant suppression of worry and overthinking, that bubbles and explodes like tomato soup left too long in the microwave?
And if so, am i right in believing it shows up everywhere, too… As in, your friendships. Your relationships. And work. To the point where social situations really stress you out?
Such as, feigning another headache to get out of your colleagues birthday party. Or, saying that your childcare has “fallen through at the last minute” on the night of your friends divorce drinks. Like, it’s just easier to be at home, as there’s no need to pretend to be happy there? No need to analyse everything said. No need to try and impress or “live your best life”.
Home. Safe, sweet home. Where you can curl up on your spot on the sofa, grip your mug, sit in silence and feel nothing…
And, painfully, it’s called round to say you’re a failure for staying on your sofa; that you’re wasting your life inside. And, at this point, I suspect you have absolutely no idea what to do.
So, like many other women, you go to the NHS. You tell this stranger that life is so bloody terrifying right now; that you are too frightened to be alone, but too scared to be around others. They nod sympathetically, but it feels like they’re not taking you seriously.
You fear you’ve wasted their time. You’re put on a three month waiting list for a block of six CBT sessions in a cold porta cabin and loaded up with neuron-numbing drugs to bridge the gap until your first appointment.
From the age of 18, I was crippled with anxiety. Obsessed with image, conformity, empathy and people, I had a facial disfigurement due to Bells Palsy and was severely depressed.
I feared my life would be a constant struggle. Joyless. Empty. I was fortunate, though. My doctor understood stress and anxiety were triggers of Bells Palsy and suggested I sought help from a Psychologist.
Sounds trite, but it’s true. Working with my Psychologist, I learnt how to understand my anxiety, stress and depression; understand it and control it.
I learnt how to make practical changes, and what’s more… I learnt how to completely get rid of it.
After years of convincing myself this was what my life was going to be now, I conquered it. Smashed it. Don’t get me wrong, it tried to come back, but I learnt how to never ever let it. And the gratitude I had for that Psychologist was the reason why I studied to become one. And so, 25 years and multiple Doctorate degrees later, and having helped thousands of people learn to completely rid themselves of these life-destroying ills… I’m now an award-winning Psychologist, hell-bent on eradicating anxiety, stress and depression from the world, and help women in particular, to become fearless females.
I’ve just made that help even more accessible; accessible to you. See, I understand the idea of going straight to a Psychologist is daunting.
It’s also not cheap. But, you know your situation better than anyone, and, if you’re like me, you know the idea of living with your anxiety as it is now, is painful. Excruciatingly painful.
So, if paying to sit in front of a psychologist is too much, and doing nothing is way too little, then this is what I’ve created to bridge the gap…
The Fearless Female Anxiety Fix has been designed specifically to help you learn how to understand, control and eradicate the life-numbing anxiety, stress and depression that’s held you back for way too long.
I’ve condensed all my 25 years of experience in working with women just like you. I’ve used the most effective exercises and changes that I know really work. Lots of things out there at the moment are full of information which, lets be honest, nobody ever really reads; the Anxiety Fix only has the essential, need to know stuff but most importantly shows you what to do with this information.
You will be guided by me via a series of 8 written and video-based phases that will help you tackle the most important areas of your anxiety and how to get rid of them. The workbook has been written to work through like you would in a 1:1 consultation with me. There are spaces to fill in answers that you can reflect on.
You may decide to speed through or be happy to take your time. It’s up to you, there’s no time limit, and you can start whenever you’re ready. I’ve designed the workbook to take as little time as possible, so an hour a week is all that’s needed from you. And no, you don’t need any technical computer know how. You just need to be able to access the internet and have an email address.
The Fearless Female Journal is full of thought-provoking exercises, designed to help you find out about your real self. The journal will speed you closer to being the best version of you.
This journal will become your partner on your journey to lifelong happiness. The journal is a way for you to be in charge of finally getting what you need this time. No more putting up with things you don’t want. It’s all too easy to sign up for something and then quickly run out of enthusiasm and never finish it. Using the journal will ensure that this time, you make the changes you need to be free of all the things holding you back. A way of making yourself personally accountable, you will be able to check and chart your progress and celebrate when you reach your goal of living life on your terms.
The brain works in chunks of 3 months, so the journal has been written to cover 3 months. This journal is different to most you can buy. You will of course get all the benefits of journaling, but you’ll quickly realise that the crucial difference is the exercises and how motivated you feel. Whatever you’d like to change, the journal will get you there.
Everyone has a busy life, so filing in the journal should only take 5 minutes a day.
There are 4 simple questions to answer each day, and an exercise to do at the start of each week. At the end of the week, there are questions to check your progress. This is after all, about creating change and you need to see that things are changing.
Using the journal means that whatever changes you want to make, actually happen.
I’ve written the set of 12 Help Now cards for the times when you’re feeling anxious and overwhelmed and just need to find the best way forward straight away. Using the help now cards is like having me on speed dial, guiding you through life.
There’s a card for every emergency and a key to guide you with which one to use. You can download them to your phone or keep them in the bottom of your bag, ready for every crisis of confidence. Each card will guide you through a different kind of problem. Whatever the problem, we’ve got you covered. From going to a party with social anxiety, putting an end to panic attacks, to stopping constant worry thoughts and getting better sleep.
Using the ‘Help Now Cards’ is like waving a magic wand, so you get to put anxiety on hold for a while.
What’s even better, the more you practice these techniques, the more power and control you’ll have over anxiety. It really is that simple.
After years of convincing myself this was what my life was going to be now, I conquered it. Smashed it. Don’t get me wrong, it tried to come back, but I learnt how to never ever let it. And the gratitude I had for that Psychologist was the reason why I studied to become one.
And so, 25 years and multiple Doctorate degrees later, and having helped thousands of people learn to completely rid themselves of these life-destroying ills… I’m now an award-winning Psychologist, hell-bent on eradicating anxiety, stress and depression from the world, and help women in particular, to become fearless females.
At this point, you’ve found neutral again, and things start to look brighter; there’s a sense of hope. Some women say they notice this by their ability to get out of bed in the morning and smile.
The same smile where you have that warming sense of feeling that you’re on to something, y’know? You’re ready to move on and really start to get into the nitty gritty of what’s actually going on in your mind.
This place, this phase, this challenging of those faulty beliefs, there’s no better place to be. It’s a call to action, a declaration of war on what’s putting the brakes on your happiness.
So, we start to look for evidence that you can control this thing. We do this together. I’m with you all the way here. This bit’s hard. But the reward? Oh darling, the reward is wonderful, and will be found in phase 3.
A feeling of well-being and more control is the reward for people who have engaged with the tools to this point.
Because, when you get this far into the journey, most have begun to realise just how different life can be. A funny thing happens when you start to stand toe to toe with all the things you’ve spent a lifetime avoiding…you finally become free. Free from anxiety, overwhelm and worry. Free from all the chaos inside your head.
This is what starting to take back control of your life and be in charge of your happiness feels like.
Knowledge of yourself, beliefs, thoughts and behaviour. It’s only by cracking these codes that you’ll be ready for the fourth phase on this journey.
This is the phase where people like us, the natural born doers and work horses, the people pleasers, the peace seekers, well we submit to that primal instinct that says no matter how free we’ve become, no matter how well we’re doing, we’re not quite there yet.
Somehow it’s always easier to slip back to where we were and let those familiar thoughts back through the door. But, with the knowledge already known, and most of the fight already fought, it’s easy to shut the door on all those old habits and refuse to let them back in.
This is where together, we push past what you thought was possible and where we utterly dominate any negativity or overthinking still lurking in the corners of your mind.
This is the final piece of the jigsaw, and the biggest of realisations. Whatever curve ball life throws at you, you can choose how to react.
You’re able to problem solve without the curse of overwhelm. No longer will you live with the constant feeling that something’s not quite right. Right here and after all 5 phases you’ll live the way you always hoped was possible. The way you thought you never could.
Right now, right at this very moment, you’ve just learnt something about yourself. You’ve just learnt that you don’t have to put up with the rubbish in your head anymore. You’ve also just learnt that there’s someone, someone and something that’s going to help you do that. That someone is me, and that something is Fearless Female.
So, if you’re sick to death of cancelling plans, feeling inferior to others, questioning your looks, your intelligence, humour and worth, and most of all, sick of feeling fearful at every turn, then be kind to yourself…Be kind and say, I’ve taken the biggest step forward to conquering this. I’ve sat and read all of this and discovered there’s a way out.
The next step is easy in comparison. The next step is to download or order the Fearless Female tools and allow me to guide you through to being the Fearless Female you’ve always been able to be.
We’re here for you. I’m here for you.
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Once you’ve really absorbed the materials, future feelings and situations don’t seem to get to you in the same way and you are able to deal with things differently. Don’t get me wrong you still feel all the normal emotions, but the bad ones don’t seem to stay with you in the same unhealthy way. It isn’t a magic pill or spell, you just have to remember the processes you are taught by Wendy and you react and deal with things in the right way, which is so liberating. I’m not only less anxious but some days I actually can’t wait to get the day started. I feel so excited about life again.